Every family has dealt with a member of their family getting old and no longer able to care for themselves because of medical reasons whether it's physical or mental.Those families that have,usually have to face a tough decision of putting their loved ones in a nursing home.My family is one of those who had to face this difficult decision.Our decision was difficult because we've heard so many stories of abuse in nursing homes etc.,and the fear of it actually happening to our loved one overwhelmed us.
This led me to do some independent research to learn of what to look for when detecting abuse.While researching,I stumbled across an article by Angela Atkinson that contained details of what to look for when detecting this type of abuse:broken skin,new bruises,mood swings. I learned also that there are a lot of abuse cases reported by families and friends.However, I didn't see how those reports were being handled.This only enhanced my concerns and fear about my mom's stay in the nursing home since I am not in position to actually monitor her stay and treatment in person.I pray that her stay will be pleasant although I'm hurt because I can't be there to protect her in person.Overall, we must not overlook the abuse in nursing homes because you never know,you or your loved one may be there one day.
By A.Barnes
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
STILL MY MOTHER'S BABY
March 13, 1991 when i was born,
Two of the best families i joined.
My mother first and my father last,
It's crazy how time is moving so fast.
Growing up in D.C wasn't the ideal place for me,
only thing happening' is pain and a lot of misery.
Comin' up my ass was always red,
cause i didn't listen to a word my mother said.
My father was strict and always right,
I refused to listen, but i never put up a fight.
When i turned 14, i though i was a real "G",
my mother saw me growing into a man she didn't want me to be.
I wish i knew then what she had on her mind,
Cuz these streets is starting to take a toll on my behind.
She would always scream at me, but i never got mad at her,
cause when it's cold, she's my fur, damn, i wish i had listened to her.
These police and judges don't care, to take someones life, they think
it's fair.
They sit there with that cold hard stare, then your life is changed when the judge says, "get his ass out of here."
My brother called me up saying that it was important that he come see me.
So much went through my head when i hung up, and sat looking at t.v.
When i got in the car he had i normal look,
i calmed down some, but was still kind of shook.
He said ma just had a heart attack, she in the hospital,
my body grew numb and cold like an icicle.
But my family stuck together, like bullets and lead,
you wouldn't believe how many tears i shed.
As i sit in that hospital room, i could only look at her,
it had grown so cold, because i had no fur.
In a deep sleep, my mother stands in front of me,
she said Marcus don't worry, one day we'll all be free.
I say,"ma not right now, that's to hard for me to see",
i awoke, there she lay so peacefully.
Two years have gone by and i think I'm starting to go crazy,
but i pull myself together, because in my mind i know,
I'm still my mother's baby.....
By
Marcus Harrison
Two of the best families i joined.
My mother first and my father last,
It's crazy how time is moving so fast.
Growing up in D.C wasn't the ideal place for me,
only thing happening' is pain and a lot of misery.
Comin' up my ass was always red,
cause i didn't listen to a word my mother said.
My father was strict and always right,
I refused to listen, but i never put up a fight.
When i turned 14, i though i was a real "G",
my mother saw me growing into a man she didn't want me to be.
I wish i knew then what she had on her mind,
Cuz these streets is starting to take a toll on my behind.
She would always scream at me, but i never got mad at her,
cause when it's cold, she's my fur, damn, i wish i had listened to her.
These police and judges don't care, to take someones life, they think
it's fair.
They sit there with that cold hard stare, then your life is changed when the judge says, "get his ass out of here."
My brother called me up saying that it was important that he come see me.
So much went through my head when i hung up, and sat looking at t.v.
When i got in the car he had i normal look,
i calmed down some, but was still kind of shook.
He said ma just had a heart attack, she in the hospital,
my body grew numb and cold like an icicle.
But my family stuck together, like bullets and lead,
you wouldn't believe how many tears i shed.
As i sit in that hospital room, i could only look at her,
it had grown so cold, because i had no fur.
In a deep sleep, my mother stands in front of me,
she said Marcus don't worry, one day we'll all be free.
I say,"ma not right now, that's to hard for me to see",
i awoke, there she lay so peacefully.
Two years have gone by and i think I'm starting to go crazy,
but i pull myself together, because in my mind i know,
I'm still my mother's baby.....
By
Marcus Harrison
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Lend A Helping Hand
We all are going to get old one day.This is a reality that we as people have to accept.Every person has some type of fear of this reality or fear that someone they care for may die from old age.Alot of us overlook the problems that our elders have to deal with,such as abuse and the possibilty of someone taking advantage of them.
Many of us just turn a blind eye and take the easy way out by acting like we didn't see something that we know we saw.For instance, you happen to ride,walk or run past an elders home and you see them in front yard struggling to push the lawn mower to cut the lawn.Instead of stopping to lend a helping hand, we continue on down the rode by acting like we didn't see anything.
When i was young ,It was the nice things I did for the elders that made me feel good.Like,taking out the their trash ,cutting their lawns and even taking them to the store.Me,personally,I never turned a blind eye but I know plenty of people that have.If you happen to be one that may have turned a blind eye,in the past,make sure you don't do it again because always remember-one day you too will be old.
This article is note meant to criticize anyone in particular,it was created as a wake up call for the public to help our elders.
By A.Barnes
Many of us just turn a blind eye and take the easy way out by acting like we didn't see something that we know we saw.For instance, you happen to ride,walk or run past an elders home and you see them in front yard struggling to push the lawn mower to cut the lawn.Instead of stopping to lend a helping hand, we continue on down the rode by acting like we didn't see anything.
When i was young ,It was the nice things I did for the elders that made me feel good.Like,taking out the their trash ,cutting their lawns and even taking them to the store.Me,personally,I never turned a blind eye but I know plenty of people that have.If you happen to be one that may have turned a blind eye,in the past,make sure you don't do it again because always remember-one day you too will be old.
This article is note meant to criticize anyone in particular,it was created as a wake up call for the public to help our elders.
By A.Barnes
Monday, July 12, 2010
Sun Light Is No Longer Shining
The sunlight is no longer shining through the
Windows of our minds
Because we are now trapped into this
dark environment with many real brothers
Of the same kind.
Where we no longer embrace the black
Sisters in our lives to call our own
Because the government is killing two birds with
One little stone and now our girls are gone
But many brothers are still holding onto faith
that one day freedom will come
Despite the demonstration that the "terminator" dis-
Played when he executed
"Tookie Williams" on the front page
Where it was so plain for the eyes to see
That our roots are getting killed off along with time
Which should be all the right reasons in the world
For us to stop the black on black crimes
The sunlight is no longer shining through
The windows or our minds
Because we are now trapped into this dark
environment with many real
brothers of the same kind
Whose anger is constantly building within
this world of danger
Because we haven't yet to find any light
at the other end of the dark chamber
So one must prepare for his death at any
given day or time
And pray for the kids that may not ever
reach to see their primes
O'lord they treating us so wrong
But will you please continue to give us the
Strenghth to move on strong
By answering our prayers and blessings
Our future seeds
Who will soon be ripping and running
Throughout the ghetto streets
Because we must make our kids road
in life smooth, where there is true love
So they all will know that there is only
One true god up above
Cause there have been trillions of casualties
behind religious wars
That effected many generations with a
lifetime of scars
Leaving the sunlight to no longer shine
Through the windows of our minds
Because we are now trapped into this dark environ-
ment with many real brothers of the same kind
Where our hearts are now fully loaded,
From carrying too much consecutive time.
By Robert Sawyer A.K.A RAH-RAH
Windows of our minds
Because we are now trapped into this
dark environment with many real brothers
Of the same kind.
Where we no longer embrace the black
Sisters in our lives to call our own
Because the government is killing two birds with
One little stone and now our girls are gone
But many brothers are still holding onto faith
that one day freedom will come
Despite the demonstration that the "terminator" dis-
Played when he executed
"Tookie Williams" on the front page
Where it was so plain for the eyes to see
That our roots are getting killed off along with time
Which should be all the right reasons in the world
For us to stop the black on black crimes
The sunlight is no longer shining through
The windows or our minds
Because we are now trapped into this dark
environment with many real
brothers of the same kind
Whose anger is constantly building within
this world of danger
Because we haven't yet to find any light
at the other end of the dark chamber
So one must prepare for his death at any
given day or time
And pray for the kids that may not ever
reach to see their primes
O'lord they treating us so wrong
But will you please continue to give us the
Strenghth to move on strong
By answering our prayers and blessings
Our future seeds
Who will soon be ripping and running
Throughout the ghetto streets
Because we must make our kids road
in life smooth, where there is true love
So they all will know that there is only
One true god up above
Cause there have been trillions of casualties
behind religious wars
That effected many generations with a
lifetime of scars
Leaving the sunlight to no longer shine
Through the windows of our minds
Because we are now trapped into this dark environ-
ment with many real brothers of the same kind
Where our hearts are now fully loaded,
From carrying too much consecutive time.
By Robert Sawyer A.K.A RAH-RAH
Friday, July 9, 2010
Thought Of The Month
Try not to become a person of habits, but a person of value..
Being successful in life,comes with values..
A failure is a person who have blamed,
A winner is a person who keep fighting until he/she wins..
You will never embrace the future if you keep hold on to the pass..
There is no job in the future, the future is in you..
The best thing that happened to you today is you woke up, some people didn't! By
waking up you still have a chance to make a difference!!!
By-Antonio Barnes
Being successful in life,comes with values..
A failure is a person who have blamed,
A winner is a person who keep fighting until he/she wins..
You will never embrace the future if you keep hold on to the pass..
There is no job in the future, the future is in you..
The best thing that happened to you today is you woke up, some people didn't! By
waking up you still have a chance to make a difference!!!
By-Antonio Barnes
Friday, July 2, 2010
Showing My Appreciation
Recently, my fear and pain have been placed at ease due to the job the university of Maryland's hospital staff,specifically the CCU unit, has done on my mom's behalf. About one week ago, my 82 year old mom had a procedure done to remove a gall stone. While it was not an operation procedure, it still had effects on her old frame.For instance,as a result of the procedure, she had kidney complications,problems breathing and high blood pressure:things that could very well have been derived from old age.Nevertheless, the hospital staff worked in unison to remedy her health problems.Further, they have been very informative to me in my continuous efforts to get her health updates.
To show my appreciation for the hospital staff's work,I decided to write this article.My mom is my best friend and I had routinely talked to her on a daily basis for the last 15 years.It is very hard on me being 500 miles away and not being able to be present at her bedside.Thanks to Jen and Ruff and the rest of the hospital staff as well as the doctors,who all took my place in being there and showed a genuine care.This should come as no surprise to me, after all, I was born in this very same hospital some 43 years ago.
For what it is worth, thanks and I appreciate the care shown towards my ailing mom and me. This is my only way to show my gratitude and many thanks.
by A.Barnes
To show my appreciation for the hospital staff's work,I decided to write this article.My mom is my best friend and I had routinely talked to her on a daily basis for the last 15 years.It is very hard on me being 500 miles away and not being able to be present at her bedside.Thanks to Jen and Ruff and the rest of the hospital staff as well as the doctors,who all took my place in being there and showed a genuine care.This should come as no surprise to me, after all, I was born in this very same hospital some 43 years ago.
For what it is worth, thanks and I appreciate the care shown towards my ailing mom and me. This is my only way to show my gratitude and many thanks.
by A.Barnes
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